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Sometimes it’s not the guy that catches the girls heart, it’s the Harley. As a lover of most things Harley, I tend to agree, especially when it comes to attracting my attention. There have been songs written about this very issue, with catchy tunes like, “what have you done for me lately” and “I don’t want no scrubs, a scrub is a guy that gets no love from me… “. One thing that these songs all have in common is that they are awfully materialist right, ladies or are they right on?
Is a guy’s presents more valuable than his presence? I believe that there may be room for both. In relationship, both participants can become greedy both for presents and presence. Generally in new relationships, both seem to flow abundantly, but as time flies, so can presence and presents. One way to keep the love fire burning is to do both, but do so with ease and not overexhuberance. How one begins a relationship, generally is how one must continue it on order to keep their partner happy and feeling fulfilled.
Some tips;
Do not replace presents in the place of authentic presence. For example, if you are working late, don’t send flowers, instead plan a romantic dinner in addition to the flowers and be sure to be there on time.
Remember presents during special events, holidays or milestones in your relationships. Instead of a night out to celebrate, buy a gift in commemoration of the special occasion.
Don’t use presents as a weapon. For example, do not say, “I will get you this if you do that or you will not get this without giving me that.”
Using these tips are some of the ways to insure that its just not about the presents, but also the presence. Although, I may be attracted to that Hot Harley, it will be presence and presents that will keep the initial Harley fire burning in the years and months ahead.